Teens and Dating: a conversation

*this post is the next-to-last one in a (so far) yearly series on family Just yesterday I was having to bend over so my little boy could wrap his whole hand around my one pointer finger to keep his balance. I was throwing him in the air and he was drooling on his shirt and he only had four teeth. Today? He is almost taller than me and…

What it is that Mothers REALLY do

  (The second of four posts in a series on family.) ‘Did you make all of these?’ Standing on two points in somewhere Oklahoma, my hand sweeps across rows upon rows of wooden knick knacks in one of those gas station junkin’ stores. Some were small enough to fit in one cupped palm but there were also a few that would require the assistance of several grown men to haul…

What Women Really Find Sexy in Marriage

(The first in a series of four posts on family.) After more than a few years of married people watching each other floss, the flushed-cheeked rush and beautiful mystery of cat-and-mouse flirting may appear to lose the luster of the mixed tapes and couples-only skates of yore. I say ‘appear to lose its shiny’ because under the surface of things? The young and in love have…

A Mad Woman’s Prayer for her girlfriends

Good morning, God, Wow. Thank You for the sunrise. Do you think those up every day or are they just lined up in some queue You created for forever? Since it feels like a special Hello just for me, I think you make me a fresh one every morning. Thank you for being so generous and full of thought about what brings me joy that you bring me gifts every…

10 Things That Are Over Rated

A few years back on the calendar, a new business moved into our small community that had everyone bubbling. After ten people in one day asked me if I had tried ‘that new bubble tea yet’, I determined to put my curiosity to rest and understand the hype. Bubble tea is served with a special straw designed like a garden hose to accommodate golf-ball sized tapioca pearls. I didn…

Small Beginnings

Taking care of some business yesterday morning, I zipped off a quick message: ‘I was just wondering: are we still a go? Not worrying about the number and just moving forward?’ I clicked over to another page to finish an article not coming easily. Within minutes, the ding of a reply from my friend thankfully interrupted the writer’s block: ‘I am going to move forward. Had a friend talk…

All the Things

(We just moved to Arkansas, Y’all. I get to have coffee with this view every morning. It’s a crazy life.)   Because I like to share all the good things…. Dignum Memoria and Chad Matthews A thing that has always driven me is the story behind a set of eyes. Sitting down with a stranger, sharing story, and then parting perhaps as friends, but for…

Digging For Beauty

There are some things people say that make my eyes roll way back up inside my head if I’m not of a mind to hear them. It’s not on purpose: it’s knee-jerk eye-rolling. ‘If the Lord brings you to it, He will see you through it.’ ‘The Lord only gives you what you can handle.’ ‘Having gratitude will fix that attitude.’ These are all so…

So You’re a B Team Christian

My son had it in his mind last fall that all he wanted to do in the wide world ever was play some football. Being raised by the South teaches a boy a few nonnegotiables mostly by way of not-so subconcious: say yes ma’am, eat your cornbread in your beans, and play the football. So my boy, along with most every male in middle school, took a week…

4 Things to Remember When Be Still Seems Impossible

Be still and know that I am God. ~Psalm 46:10 Thumbing through the scrawl of my journal one quiet morning before my three roosters began to crow, I began to pick out patterns of words on several of the worn pages: please show me be still I never realized I asked so much…but there it is, underlined and pen-scored and coffee-stained. What is it about being…