Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot by Mo Isom

‘I’ll speak up.’
Mo says this in the introduction to, I believe, one of the most important conversations of our time the church can enter into in her book Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot. It’s the truth I’ve known of my friend from the first minute of a nine hour conversation on the first plane to Jinja, Uganda that made us kin. She has never wavered from that in the years I’ve known her.
And I believe a generation will not only be grateful for Mo’s unflinching vulnerability, but transformed by the Truth she washes over every lie we’ve ever heard.

I choose to speak up. Not as a preacher but as a pilgrim. A pilgrim who learned every hard lesson, every hard way. Who sinned time and time and time again in search of a pleasure I just couldn’t find. ~Mo Isom-Aiken

As parents and Big C church people, we (and all those who have gone before us) tend to err on one of two sides in a conversation that leaves any generation dying a thousand little deaths:
1) keeping silent and shielding them from it out of a sense of protection
2) setting up every rule and taboo in hopes of putting them off of all things sexual

The first way is not only completely ineffectual, it is backfiring in the worst way possible. The kids are gonna find out anyway (didn’t we?)…only quicker now and in more detail (thank you, ‘smart’ phones). But it won’t be the truth as we should all know it: it will be the twisted, cheap, quick version of the ‘most intimate act(s) of worship and praise we are free to know’.
The second way we have typically entered the conversation sets sex up as dirty and rigid and leaves zero room for anything more than guilt. This not only creates a culture of shame surrounding all of us who will, have, and shall fall as the humans we are, but can also leave newlyweds confused and unable to switch off everything they’ve been told about the badness of sex.
(purity culture backlash much?)
Neither of these ways is getting us anywhere (they’re actually landing us straight-backwards into therapy—or worse, trying to handle the shame and fallout on our own). They both take years and years inside a marriage to heal instead of immediately enjoying the healthy benefits of a holy kind of soul-combusting sex God gave us as a right-good and fun gift.

What if someone would write a book from first-hand knowledge that tackled everything from the tangles of pornography to the girl pressured into sex (or every physical act but) to why a couple can’t figure out why they’re dissatisfied with the real thing?
What if someone was brave enough to show us all we forfeit by allowing the world to hijack our imaginations about the most intimate connection humans can have?
What if someone showed us the heart of God there is behind all things sex?
That’s my Mo.
That’s this book.
Join the conversation?
Because I believe this book is a game-changing conversation piece and I can be incredibly generous when I’m over-caffeinated, I’m giving away THREE SIGNED COPIES of Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot. Mo will put your name and a personal note in your copy and I will sweetly and swiftly snail mail them straight to you whereupon you will read this book and then you’ll want to call Mo and tell her she’s your best friend, you can’t believe she wrote some of the stuff she did, girl, and just: thank you.
Thank you, Mo, for letting God use your vulnerability for His glory.
Thank you for speaking up.

Check out below for a chance to win your copy.

(Hurry now! The book releases tomorrow and they’re going to be sold out already!)

Click below to watch the trailer for Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot:

An excerpt from the introduction to

Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot:

I don’t think we’re talking about it enough.
Sure, our culture is saturated with it. Our computer screens are pumped full of it. Our televisions ooze it. Our radios scream about it. Magazines and books and apps and social media outlets stream it down our throats.
Lust, body ideals, pleasure, foreplay, porn, adultery. We’re obsessed with it. We’re fixated on it. We’re entertained by it. We think we’re deeply all-informed about it.
But we’re not willing to really sit down and talk about it.
God, after all, is the inventor of sex. We were made, by Him, as sexual beings. So if it’s a topic fiercely close to His heart, it must become a topic fiercely close to ours.
It’s time to begin reclaiming sex for the glory of God. It’s time to invite Jesus back into the bedroom.
It’s time to start the conversations that the church forgot.

To enter for a chance to win your signed copy:

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  3. If you pre-order a copy today by clicking the graphic below, I’ll throw 3 entries in the kitty plus you get a whole bag of free tools and videos and a chance to grab some #moswag  ( if you win this giveaway, you can give your copy to your best sisterfriend and keep the one Mo signs for you–you’re so generous–are you over-caffeinated like me??!)

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  1. Amy Barclay | 5th Mar 18


    • Melissa Blair | 5th Mar 18

      I don’t speak Portuguese but I am adding you to the kitty. Also I love you.

  2. rachel | 5th Mar 18

    woohoo! (is that appropriate?) this book looks awesome, and I’m sharing and pre-ordering now!

    • Melissa Blair | 5th Mar 18

      So beyond appropriate! I love that you yell like I do. Got you down, sister. You’re going to love this.

  3. John A Ray | 5th Mar 18

    Definitely something that needs more attention. Looking forward to see the voice added to the conversation.

    • Melissa Blair | 6th Mar 18

      You know I don’t mind getting awkward. Let’s all find a fire pit and hash it out! I’ll draw on Friday and if you don’t win, I’ll probably give you a copy anyway 😉

  4. Nina Riethmaier | 5th Mar 18

    Cannot wait!

    • Melissa Blair | 6th Mar 18

      Me first! I love you! I hope Ellis draws your name (I haven’t told her yet I’ll need her help Friday). Oh and also! See you Friday!

  5. Caroline | 5th Mar 18

    Looks excellent! I’d love to read it.

    • Melissa Blair | 6th Mar 18

      It IS so very excellent. I can’t wait for you too. Thank you for reading and for entering today!

  6. Allison Phillips | 5th Mar 18

    Just 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 for this!!!!! ❤️

    • Melissa Blair | 6th Mar 18

      ALL the praise hands. You’re in the kitty like a thousand times now. Love we’ve been in this conversation and all the voices around it now. God is a fun one.

  7. Alisha yancey | 5th Mar 18

    Super excited! Our women’s bible study group just did a study on this! I am a middle school teacher and I am always looking for advice to share with my students and my kiddos! Would love to win!

    • Melissa Blair | 6th Mar 18

      Alisha, I think unicorns exist and they look like teachers who love Jesus and the kiddos they work with. You are amazing. I hope you win this one! Mo’s is a fresh and needed voice in this conversation. Look for her on Insta too–she’s always got some good words or something hilarious her kids have done.

  8. Misty | 5th Mar 18

    Excited about this!

  9. Kelsie Crozier | 6th Mar 18

    I’m so excited to read this!

  10. Tracy | 6th Mar 18

    Raising kiddos in this culture is terrifying. I’d love to read this!

  11. Richele | 6th Mar 18

    I think this is something that is needed! Can’t wait to read the book!

  12. Randi | 6th Mar 18

    How can i get this book??? I’m starting a bible study on Monday and I think this may be a great book!!

  13. Emily Richards | 6th Mar 18

    I very much want someone to baby step me through handling this topic with my kids. I literally have no idea in this world how to keep them from turning out like me! Love you sister. Em

  14. Sonya | 7th Mar 18

    Love Mo! I have followed her since her LSU days.

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